“The impetus for apps like Grindr, Scruff and Hornet (and before that, sites like Manhunt and Adam4Adam) was primarily sexual, giving guys a chance to seek the hookup partners they desire and do the dirty before moving on to the next. But it turns out that lust can evolve into love, and seeing as physical attraction is a healthy component of a good relationship, sometimes a trick turns into an actual situation, especially now, in the era of same sex marriage, when a lot of guys are looking for way more than a quick release. At times like that, the euphemism some of these venues use to promote themselves—“dating sites”—actually seems reasonable. I asked some app users to tell me how that happened for them, and they lustily obliged, whether they were actively looking for a partner or simply fell into the lap of happiness by chance.”

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